"Life is uncertain. Life is beautiful. Accept where you are, and be proud. But most of all; be kind. Always be kind to yourself, fellow humans, the planet and the animals. You have one body. We have one Earth. Show respect, kindness and courage. Life may be uncertain, but we all got a chance of making something beautiful out of it. Be bold, take the chance."
I believe it’s the small things in life that matter. The things we do every day. Things we might not even reflect over, like all the random thoughts that run through our complicated minds each and every nanosecond. All the necessary thoughts such as ‘where did I put my car keys?’ and ‘today is going to be a good day’, as well as completely unnecessary thoughts such as ‘I’m not good enough’ and ‘I can't do that’.
Thoughts have a massive impact over us. They affect our feelings and behaviors; influence our day-to-day life. I strongly believe that if we manage to change, or control, the negative thoughts we have about ourselves we can truly start to transform our lives.
Controlling thoughts, however, can be somewhat challenging. At first we have to become aware of our thoughts and how they actually affect us. By becoming aware we can begin our journey towards change.
Are you aware?
Simply start by becoming aware. Listen to your thoughts. In his book "The Power of Now" Eckhart Tolle writes how we should learn to become the watcher of our thoughts.
You're not your thoughts. You're not your feelings, emotions or habits. You're a something far deeper than that. You're a beautiful soul with a powerful inner voice, an intuition that can take you anywhere you wish to go.
I'm pretty sure you've a goal you wish to pursue, and you should never let fear-based thoughts take over. Most likely there's someone that has already done what you wish to do. Nevertheless, it hasn’t been done in your unique way. It’s not a valid excuse not to chase your dreams. The world needs you. You have your own particular way of doing things – no one can be you better than you, and that, my dear friend, is your superpower.
Fear is not a bad thing; many times it actually helps us stay away from danger. However, fear becomes dangerous when it stops you from living the life you dream of.
While you’re busy chasing rainbows, unicorns, love, money, success and fulfilment don’t forget to appreciate the now. Don’t focus on the things you don’t have, focus on the things you do have – energy flows where you put your attention. There will be days when it will be genuinely hard to appreciate the present. Don’t push yourself to feel a certain way, to be something you’re not. Keep in mind that feelings, and circumstances, are temporary. This too shall pass. Try to see the situation for what it is; a time to grow, improve yourself, and to punch fear straight in the face. Uppercut your pain away.
Reconnect with your why
It's crucial that you find out what works best for you. It’s very easy to get caught up in every day life that we tend to forget about why we’re doing certain things. Re-establish your why and the reasons you’re doing what you’re doing. Connect with your purpose – write down why you like to do the things you’re doing, what would you like to accomplish and why would you like to accomplish it?
I like to think that there're certain thought patterns, and life mantras, that in the end will have a big impact on our overall well-being. Below you'll find 4 Life Mantras I strive to live by.
4 Life Mantras To Live By
- Release the control, surrender to the flow
One way of finding true happiness and peace is to accept the present moment, simply as it is. When all is said and done, and there is nothing more you can do; just let go, and go with the flow. Resisting only creates more struggle and frustration within you. Allow things to unfold as they are. Accept what is. Accept this present moment.
Still, one thing you should never let go of is your trust in the future. Never lose your hope. Things will work outf, eventually. You don’t always have to know how,
simply trust that it will.
Worrying about something you can’t change will only attract more negativity and sadness into your life. We all have goals and dreams that we’re striving towards; some of us even visualise how we want our future to look. But sometimes life throws things at us that are beyond our control, and we need to accept that. We can’t control everything, but we can control how we react to the things happening around us. With that said, never give up on your dreams and goals. Be grateful for all of your achievements so far. Be grateful for being alive, for your heart pumping blood. Be thankful, and go with the flow.
"Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life."
- Don’t compare yourself to others
– Jen Sincero, "You Are A Badass".
When you start to compare yourself to others you fail to look after your own uniqueness, you neglect the world from having you. You've so much potential within you; everything from your dreams, experiences, knowledge, achievements and personality to the way you talk, listen and laugh – All of this creates you.
Do yourself a huge favor and stop comparing yourself to others. You've something special to offer, something no one else has. Don’t let that go. Don’t let your true self disappear in a world that needs you. Focus on yourself. Most importantly, enjoy
what you’re doing. If you’re satisfied with what you have created, then all is well. Always please yourself. In order to feel at peace you've to let go of the opinions of others, and start listening to your own opinions. The only one you’ll have to impress is yourself. Simply amaze yourself.
- Be kind
Kindness starts from within. Respect and forgive yourself, for all that you are and for all that you have done. Feelings such as self-criticism and guilt are nothing but unhealthy and useless, and will only take you further down the self-pity road. Stop it, now. Get over yourself already. The world is full of mistakes. We are humans, making mistakes is part of life. It’s how we learn. It’s how we grow. Strive to always do your best, no matter what.
And while you’re busy loving yourself - love and respect the people around you. Don’t be afraid to express your emotions, to give love and to show kindness. Kindness is powerful, amazingly so. Perform random acts of kindness, each and every day, to yourself and others. We can create a kinder world; we just have to start with ourselves, and start by giving more to others. Kindness spreads like wildfire. Nurture it, and watch it grow.
‘Believe you can, and your half way there.’
- Believe in yourself
‘Be confident.’ ‘Be bold.’ ‘Trust your intuition.’
We have all seen or heard these quotes. They sound so simple, uncomplicated. But frankly speaking, sometimes they make me want to puke.
Nonetheless, maybe it’s just as easy. Maybe we just have to believe in ourselves. Because if we don’t believe in ourselves, who will?
If you’re not confident – fake it. Fake it until you damn make it. I bet there're bunches of confident people out there that aren’t as confident as they pretend to be. They’re just good at faking it. Or then they’ve been faking it for such a long time that, at this point, they’ve transformed into confident beings.
Being confident isn’t the same as being cocky. Being confident truly means that you believe you can. It means that you know your worth. And let’s be honest – we all deserve to be the Queen or King of our own magnificent kingdom. A kingdom where there's plenty of room for growth, mistakes, ups & downs, self-acceptance, love and magic. During our precious years on Earth we deserve to be truly happy.
You deserve to be you.
You owe it to yourself, and you owe it to the world.
"Dear life, some days I can't bother taking you seriously.
Cause if I did I would lose my mind."